My Mom, Me, and my Dad at my H.S graduation 2009
Everyone was getting ready to start school I would be commuting this year, because I wanted to be with my mom as much as I possibly could. Jenna and my mom were starting to get things ready for a new school year at the preschool, but most importantly we were starting to get things ready for the puppy. Mom never complained about how she was feeling so we took that as a good sign. Nate and Amanda's wedding was getting closer and closer. The Sunday before Labor Day my Mom Dad, Jenna, and I went to our good friends house for dinner. It was the first time seeing them in a long time. We had a great time, and ate wonderful food. For some reason on the ride home my mom was very quiet. We got home, and she went right to bed. Something wasn't right, she didn't feel good, and it was evident. From that point on mom was not eating like she usually did. When she ate she got stomach aches and things just did not seem right. On September 12, she went in to talk to her oncologist, her new scan showed the tumor had not spread or grown (YAY!) but her bile duct was blocked. Just to be clear the pancreas is in probably the most complicated areas in the body, there are so many things around it. She was scheduled to go in for an endoscopy to see what was going on. On September 14 (Less than a month away from the wedding) my dad brought my mom in to get the endoscopy procedure done. They were going to try to put a replaced stent in (to help everything flow back and forth so things wouldn't get stuck), but the area was too inflamed. Not only was this a problem, but the doctors saw a small hole in the small bowel which could lead to alot of problems. The only option would be for her to have an external drain for bile duct. My mom was SO UPSET. This meant she would have the drain for Nathan's wedding. She cried to me when she got home, but i tried to tell her that we can make it would no one will notice, we can figure something out. This was one of those times that my moms illness was very evident to everyone, and showed that the little things, like having an external drain bothered my mom so much. She never ever complained, but with this she did, she was mad, upset, annoyed, depressed anything you could think of thats how she felt. Its hard to say you understand, but there is a part of you as a caregiver to a person with cancer, that feels everything they feel, so I will say I understand how she felt. But once again, mom forged on like a warrior and tried to make the best of the situation. The next day September 15 my moms mood quickly changed. On that day we went and picked up our new fury friend Maverick! He was so small, and cute. We were all smiles, and once again...it felt normal in our house.
Maverick Welcomed into our home September 15, 2012 (SO much bigger now)
"You can't stop the waves,
but you can learn to surf."
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